The issue of birth control is a major one in most marriages. Newly married couples are often advised to wait a while before having a baby. They’re advised to purchase a home, get a good job, and establish a sizable savings account before considering having children. They’re advised to consider carefully how many kids they will have, and use whatever means necessary to avoid “unwanted” children. The amazing thing about all of these considerations is that God never advises any couple to wait before having children, or limit the number of children they will have. Instead, in the pages of the bible, we find newly engaged women praying for “multitudes of children” (Gen 24:60), and God blessing the poor by giving them more children (Psalm 107:41).
Considerations such as those listed above stem from a worldview that sees children as a burden. Rather than see children as something that will add to and enhance our lives, we feel (subconsciously or otherwise) that children will take away from our quality of life. The result is that we seek to limit the number of children we will have. By doing this, we can keep our finances, careers and recreational time relatively untouched by those who would put too much of a strain on them. But a long time ago, my husband and I had to ask ourselves this question: How does God see children? What is God’s role in our fertility?
“Children are a heritage of the Lord: and the fruit of the womb is his reward… Blessed is the man who has his quiver full of them.” –Psalm 127:3-5
God tells us that children are not only a blessing, but a reward from Him. How do we respond when God blesses and seeks to reward us? Do we praise God for the money He sends, and then hope that He doesn’t give us any more? Do we appreciate our good health for a little while, and then ask God to give us diabetes? Do we thank God for the friends we have, but pray that we won’t meet any more?
I know many of the reasons that lead people into controlling their fertility, and limiting the number of children they will have. My husband and I have struggled with most of them ourselves. I know how frightening the concept of giving God complete control of our fertility can be. In the future, I hope to write more on this but for now I would like to leave you with these questions:
If God says that children are a blessing and a reward from Him, are we living our lives as if that were the case? Are we honoring God with our bodies, and accepting the blessings He desires to give us?
If these are questions you’ve ever asked yourself, I highly recommend the following article, written by one of my best blogging friends, Mrs. Parunak:
Are all children blessings? It’s a question that deserves to be answered.