If we live our lives in fear of being rejected…

Our discernment of people, situations, and circumstances becomes distorted.

Our reactions to those around us, our conversations, and our connections to others are affected by the lie that governs our perception.

We see threats where none exist, and abandon others out of the fear that we might be abandoned.

We seek proof that we are contemptible.

We manipulate those around us to answer our own accusations.

We watch, wait, and seek opportunities to validate our false reality.

We see injury where none exists, threats where there are no threats, and rejection where there is not any.

We hurt others before they can hurt us, sometimes without ever realizing the pain we’re causing, or knowing that we have.

We sabotage relationships, harden our hearts to true intimacy and distance ourselves from those who may need us most, or whom we need most.

And although we might keep ourselves from being hurt, we rob ourselves of two of the greatest of human needs… love and fellowship. We also hinder our own ministry. For how can we truly love those around us if we fear being hurt by them?

“If we never produce a Judas, we’ll never produce a Peter.” (Bill Johnson)




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8 Responses to If we live our lives in fear of being rejected…

  1. wendy says:

    Thanks you. This is the struggle of my life, from my earliest memories. I am again being attacked in my mind by it. One comment from a friend “they are not very friendly” flipped the switch and I am uncomfortable in my Torah study. You have given me something to chew on for a while as I fight this.


  2. Rina says:

    Wendy, I completely understand. Praying that you will obtain a victory in this area.

  3. Brian says:

    She’s back, Folks!

  4. Brian says:

    Well, obviously, Rina, you never missed a step from the layoff. No offense but for our own selfish reasons we’re glad your back.

  5. Mrs. Parunak says:

    Rina! You’re blogging! Yay! I’m so glad to see that you’re back. This was a lovely and inspiring post, and something that really encouraged me today.

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