Author Archives: Rina

Fireproof

Yesterday, my therapist and I spoke about control. Specifically, the desire to control people and things outside ourselves. She said exactly what every mental health professional and book I’ve ever come across has said–that the only thing in this world … Continue reading

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Breadcrumbs Home

In Jordan Peterson’s book “Beyond Order, 12 More Rules for Life,” he lists rule number two as: “Imagine who you could be, and then aim single-mindedly at that.” Peterson asks the question “who could you be, if you were everything … Continue reading

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What you need to know about your gaslighting loved one

My therapist has spoken to me about “gaslighting” over the last few months, because I have not only been the recipient of this behavior throughout my life, I have also been the instigator. The problem is: until recently, no matter … Continue reading

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Turtle Shell Security

My therapist recently told me that it is not within my power to make other people feel safe and that safety is something we must each create for ourselves. I’ve been thinking a lot about this, lately, especially as it … Continue reading

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A Good Day

Someone recently told me that I had ruined their day. My immediate feeling was shame and sadness, and in the past I would have felt guilty and horrible about this. I would have scrambled to figure out how I could … Continue reading

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Healing Through Revealing

. I healed myself through telling the truth all the time. —Elizabeth Gilbert . “You don’t have to tell them EVERYTHING.” “Can’t you just do it and not say anything about it?” “Just lie.” For the past few years, I’ve … Continue reading

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Learning to Drive

The one complaint I’ve received from every partner I’ve ever had is that they never feel good enough for me. Not only am I an overthinker, I also incessantly worry and battle constant fears that—despite all evidence to the contrary—I … Continue reading

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