Author Archives: Rina

Their trauma is ours. Our healing is theirs.

I’m going to share something that might seem a little “woo-woo,” but I believe in it wholeheartedly and find it fascinating… Yesterday, my therapist and I were talking about trauma and how it affects not only the person who lived … Continue reading

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Owning My Story

  A few weeks ago, my (now ex) partner created a facebook group entitled “Own Your Story.” Created on the basis that “shame cannot survive exposure,” she hoped to establish a safe place for people to share things they felt … Continue reading

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A Little Leaven

“I am convinced that the negative has power. It lives. And if you allow it to perch in your house, in your mind, in your life, it can take you over. So when the rude or cruel thing is said, … Continue reading

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Taming the Dragon

“The brain sees what the heart wants to feel.” –Shallow Hal I read this recently and thought it perfectly summed up something I’ve been working on for a few years (and more so lately): Paying attention to the motives and … Continue reading

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Fireproof

Yesterday, my therapist and I spoke about control. Specifically, the desire to control people and things outside ourselves. She said exactly what every mental health professional and book I’ve ever come across has said–that the only thing in this world … Continue reading

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Breadcrumbs Home

In Jordan Peterson’s book “Beyond Order, 12 More Rules for Life,” he lists rule number two as: “Imagine who you could be, and then aim single-mindedly at that.” Peterson asks the question “who could you be, if you were everything … Continue reading

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Turtle Shell Security

My therapist recently told me that it is not within my power to make other people feel safe and that safety is something we must each create for ourselves. I’ve been thinking a lot about this, lately, especially as it … Continue reading

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