Author Archives: Rina

Reaching Roots

Posted on October 23, 2019 by Rina

“We act out because, ironically, we think it will bring us some relief. We equate it with happiness. Often there is some relief, in the moment. When you have an addiction and you fulfill that addiction, there is a moment … Continue reading →

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Choose your own story

Posted on October 16, 2019 by Rina

People instinctively follow what has been imposed on them by institutions, parents, friends, colleagues, culture, clergy, and on and on. Most of us never stop to consider the common path laid out before us: go to college, get a high … Continue reading →

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Crooked Trees

Posted on September 2, 2019 by Rina

I’ll never be able to wear that. I ran my hands lovingly over the blouse. It was just the kind of style I knew would look great on me, the colors enhancing my summer tan and a deep, ruffled v-neck … Continue reading →

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Feelings are signals

Posted on August 31, 2019 by Rina

In his book 12 Rules for Life, An Antidote to Chaos, Jordan Peterson writes that in order to live a better life, we must learn to pay attention to the things that bother us. This advice strikes me as counter-intuitive, yet … Continue reading →

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Walking with God

Posted on August 22, 2019 by Rina

“A knowledge of your perfect life sits inside you.” —Martha Beck “Your soul alone has the map of your future.” —John O’Donohue “Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you … Continue reading →

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No, Honestly

Posted on August 21, 2019 by Rina

“There is absolutely no way that you can be truly, genuinely, deeply compassionate and generous toward someone if they are violating your boundaries at the same time.” —Brene Brown “An internal no nulifies an external yes.” –Henry Cloud and John … Continue reading →

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Safe Places

Posted on August 14, 2019 by Rina

Early in my marriage, I remember hearing something about how couples ought to create “safe places” for each other–environments where they can talk about their issues and work through them without the fear of anger or condemnation from the other … Continue reading →

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