Category Archives: Miscellaneous

The Best We Can

Posted on December 6, 2021 by Rina

I’m always reluctant to post about relationship-related things here on the blog, because I never, ever want to “throw someone under the bus” or say something hurtful. I have tried to mitigate this in various ways–blocking mutual friends, sharing with … Continue reading →

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Owning My Story

Posted on October 10, 2021 by Rina

  A few weeks ago, my (now ex) partner created a facebook group entitled “Own Your Story.” Created on the basis that “shame cannot survive exposure,” she hoped to establish a safe place for people to share things they felt … Continue reading →

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Fireproof

Posted on August 25, 2021 by Rina

Yesterday, my therapist and I spoke about control. Specifically, the desire to control people and things outside ourselves. She said exactly what every mental health professional and book I’ve ever come across has said–that the only thing in this world … Continue reading →

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A Good Day

Posted on June 19, 2021 by Rina

Someone recently told me that I had ruined their day. My immediate feeling was shame and sadness, and in the past I would have felt guilty and horrible about this. I would have scrambled to figure out how I could … Continue reading →

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Learning to Drive

Posted on April 17, 2021 by Rina

The one complaint I’ve received from every partner I’ve ever had is that they never feel good enough for me. Not only am I an overthinker, I also incessantly worry and battle constant fears that—despite all evidence to the contrary—I … Continue reading →

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Willow

Posted on April 16, 2021 by Rina

“My life is better when I work from the assumption that everyone is doing the best they can.” —Brené Brown I recently heard about some judgments that have been passed against me by various people in my life, and it … Continue reading →

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What Would Jesus Do?

Posted on February 18, 2021 by Rina

In the 20+ years I have known Jesus, I have always loved worship music. But lately, I’ve noticed that I’ve been having a stress reaction to certain songs due to the treatment I have received from a few people who … Continue reading →

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