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Fireproof

Yesterday, my therapist and I spoke about control. Specifically, the desire to control people and things outside ourselves. She said exactly what every mental health professional and book I’ve ever come across has said–that the only thing in this world … Continue reading

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Breadcrumbs Home

In Jordan Peterson’s book “Beyond Order, 12 More Rules for Life,” he lists rule number two as: “Imagine who you could be, and then aim single-mindedly at that.” Peterson asks the question “who could you be, if you were everything … Continue reading

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What you need to know about your gaslighting loved one

My therapist has spoken to me about “gaslighting” over the last few months, because I have not only been the recipient of this behavior throughout my life, I have also been the instigator. The problem is: until recently, no matter … Continue reading

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Turtle Shell Security

My therapist recently told me that it is not within my power to make other people feel safe and that safety is something we must each create for ourselves. I’ve been thinking a lot about this, lately, especially as it … Continue reading

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Healing Through Revealing

. I healed myself through telling the truth all the time. —Elizabeth Gilbert . “You don’t have to tell them EVERYTHING.” “Can’t you just do it and not say anything about it?” “Just lie.” For the past few years, I’ve … Continue reading

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Today, I Choose

“Courage is the most important of all the virtues, because without courage you can’t practice any other virtue consistently. You can practice any virtue erratically, but nothing consistently without courage.” –Maya Angelou I tried to hide something from a loved … Continue reading

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God’s In-Box

Today a friend wrote me asking when I was going to “let Jon go” to “find his path.” Her question inferred that I was being unfair both in asking Jon to stay and in asking my girlfriend to “settle” in … Continue reading

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